Vanessa Michielon Shares Some Tips On How To Keep Your Relationship With Fitness

5 Steps to Build a Healthy

(and consistent) Relationship with Fitness

When life gets busy, keeping consistency with our training can seem almost impossible. Guilt, helplessness and frustration might arise, pushing us even further away from the very thing, which would improve our mental and physical wellbeing. If you are struggling with maintaining a healthy relationship with exercise, this roadmap can help you incorporate movement in your weekly activities with a successful mindset.

Focus on the Process: When you only set short term goals, like losing 10 pounds, or holding a plank for 5 minutes, chances are you attach value to the outcome and when the “challenge” is over, you fall back to your habitual patterns. It is crucial that you change your mindset and remind yourself, you already are a healthy person who is naturally meant to take care of her/his/their body. Movement is not a punishment or a quick fix, but is already part of who you are. Instead of thinking “ugh, I have to workout”, tell yourself “movement is normal housekeeping and I deserve to live in a clean, healthy and supportive body.”

Remember What you are Missing if you Choose not to do Anything: Let’s face it, even the most disciplined person has ups and downs when it comes to maintaining healthy habits, it is absolutely normal. But it is essential to have always clear in mind which benefits you are missing when you don’t move. Is it the feeling of accomplishment? The sense of calm alertness and mental focus? The pleasure of sweating it all out? The back pain going away? Feeling confident in your clothes? Whatever the positive effect of movement you value the most keep it always right in front of you. The next time you finish a pleasant movement session, instead of rushing back to work or life, take 5 minutes to listen to your body and contemplate: what do you feel? Where do you feel it? How did your mood change? Paying true attention to the effects of movement primes your body and brain to want for more.

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Identify your Quitting Patterns: We all have negative thinking patterns kicking in just before we choose to give up (yes, inaction is a choice too!) and break promises to ourselves. Answer this question, “What are my usual thought patterns just before giving up?” (ex. It’s not worth it, I am doing it tomorrow, I don’t have time right now, I am not feeling it..). Write it down or keep it in your mind. If you learn to see your quitting pattern coming you are better prepared to redirect your mind to your deepest reasons and less likely to fall in the trap.

Seek for Guidance and Accountability: If you are the kind of person that never asks for help, this might be challenging to accept, but even teachers have teachers, mentors have mentors. If you struggle with consistency, the wisest thing to do is to let someone else take the burden and develop a plan that works for you, or to join a specific fitness programme and forget about all the other options for the time being. No mindless YouTube/Instagram scrolling for free workouts or apps hoarding, choose only one effective thing to focus on. All you need to do is show up without wasting precious time and energy and make sure there is a system in place to keep you accountable, so you are not left alone in your journey.

Commit in Advance, then Listen to your Body: Each week, block time on your schedule to exercise and don’t look back. You don’t need to decide exactly what to do, but stick to that schedule no matter what (alarm on!). Each day, check in with yourself: do you need something energetic to shake off restlessness and anger or something controlled and precise to align and centre? Or a gentle muscular recovery session to let go of contractions and mental tension? You want to be disciplined in showing up but kind to yourself in choosing what you really need (may be not cardio in the morning after a sleepless night…)

So, will you be setting a reminder call today to schedule

in some time for yourself and fitness?

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About The Author
Vanessa Michielon is a Movement specialist and founder of the Transformative Movement Method, empowering people of all walks of life to embrace Yoga, Pilates and Dance in order to improve physical health and achieve a balanced state of mind.
Informed by Neuroscience and a somatic approach, TMM is built on 4 movement pillars – Restore, Flow, Empower and Release, which embody Yoga for Mental Health, Pilates and Dance principles to regulate our nervous system and develop a positive relationship with our body.
Vanessa has a Master Degree in Dance Performance, a PhD in Sociology and is specialised in Yoga Therapy for Anxiety, Advanced Yoga Psychology, Applied Polyvagal Theory in Therapeutic Yoga, Barre, Level 3 Pilates, Pre-Postnatal Pilates, Pilates for Orthopedic conditions, Mandala Vinyasa, Yin Yoga.
She believes that embodied movement can truly transform our life and wishes to help others find joy and purpose in their practice. 
You can find her on Instagram at and join her FREE mini course Daily Movement Rituals to build a sustainable movement routine at

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