200,000 People Were Asked What Makes a Life Go Well. One Answer Was Just Turning Up.

We like our spiritual lives to have a story: the breakthrough, the mountain-top, the night everything changed.

The biggest study of human wellbeing so far points to something much plainer.

The Global Flourishing Study is a joint project of Harvard, Baylor University and Gallup. It follows around 200,000 people in more than twenty countries, and its first results were released at the end of April 2025. The researchers measured flourishing broadly, covering happiness, health, meaning, character, relationships and financial security.

One of the clearest patterns concerned something very ordinary. People who regularly attended religious services tended to report higher flourishing, even after other well-known predictors were taken into account. The association showed up in 21 of the 23 countries reported. That’s more than the number in which civic participation was linked to flourishing.

A caution before going further. This is a correlation. The study doesn’t show that going to church causes a better life, and it’s quite possible that people who are already doing well find it easier to get out of the house on a Sunday.

Even so, look at what was measured.

The researchers didn’t ask about intensity of belief, or how moving the services were, or whether anyone felt close to God that week. They asked about attendance. Did you go?

That’s uncomfortable for the way many of us judge our own faith, because we judge it almost entirely by how it feels. A dry month feels like failure. If we sit through a service thinking about the week’s shopping, we assume it didn’t count. We wait to feel something before we trust that anything is happening.

And here’s a very large body of evidence suggesting that what goes along with a good life may have less to do with the peaks than with the plain habit of being there, including on the weeks you were bored or distracted and weren’t sure why you’d come.

That’s how most lasting things work, when you think about it. A marriage is mostly made of the thousands of unremarkable evenings, and the anniversary dinners are a small part of it. You get fit from the dull Tuesday runs. The good days get remembered and the ordinary ones do most of the work.

I think this matters especially for people in midlife. The feelings that carried faith along in their twenties have usually quietened by now, and they may be wondering whether what’s left is real. The evidence suggests it is, and it suggests that what’s left may have been the main thing all along.

Diane Cooper ends Faith for the Middle of Life on this note. You don’t need to have it all together, she writes. You need to keep showing up, one ordinary day at a time. One of her chapters is called “Small Faithful Practices That Shape a Life.”

But is showing up without feeling anything a form of faithfulness? Or is it just habit that’s been given a better name?

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